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The NYCEFT Video Podcast
Ep 6 - How to Begin Sessions: Stage I vs Stage II, Different Cycles (Attack/Attack, Withdraw/Withdraw)
(Ep 3 of a 3 episode series)
Do you ever get stuck on how to begin your sessions? Do you find that just saying “How are you?” leads to a lack focus and wastes precious time? Do you struggle to find the words to describe the work ahead? If so, this series of three episodes of The NYCEFT Podcast is for you! Listen in as Wendy Tomkiel, experienced EFT therapist and supervisor, and founding member of NYCEFT shares her expertise and wisdom on how to open the first session, the individual sessions, the fourth assessment session, ongoing Stage 1 sessions vs Stage II sessions, and how to begin sessions with couples with different cycles, e.g. attack/attack, withdraw/withdraw. Each episode with Jeff and Wendy is packed with specific tips and languaging that you can use right away with your couples.
In this episode (Ep 3 of the three part series) Wendy and Jeff discuss strategies for Stage I and Stage II sessions. Wendy begins by explaining the differences between the two stages. She then discusses how to open a session by asking for a specific example of how the couple got pulled into their cycle, and the importance of asking if there were any improvements in dealing with it. She emphasizes the importance of keeping the session emotionally focused, and describes different responses based on how the couple is showing up. Jeff and Wendy talk about different approaches therapists can use with attack/attack and withdraw/withdraw cycles, and how to maintain safety by setting ground rules and reminding partners about their goals. They also explain how the nervous system may respond, and they reflect on how the art of therapy facilitates the couple’s working alliance with the therapist.
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NYCEFT Action Plan and Statement on Racism, Diversity, and Equity
NYCEFT’s mission is to be a community where all feel welcomed and at home. We recognize the necessary systemic and individual changes that need to take place in order for our organization to embody the qualities of diversity, equity, inclusion, and justice regardless of race, ethnicity, age, gender identity, sexual orientation, religious affiliation, mental/physical ability, and socio-economic status. We believe that these changes will make us all better human beings, therapists, and colleagues and contribute to our long overdue collective healing.
Free E.F.T. For Veterans & THeir Families
Help us reach these people, give them the help they deserve, and get our service people all the way back home safe.
Therapy is provided by fully-licensed psychotherapists in their state of practice. We have EFT couple therapists in the Greater New York area volunteering in providing their professional expertise for this deserving population. All therapists are independent licensed professionals and are not employed by NYCEFT.
COUPLES AND FAMILIES HELP DURING THE OUTBREAK
Dear visitor, all of us at NYCEFT are concerned about your emotional health as we navigate the multiple stressor of responding to the global pandemic. Please stay tuned and check back here for helpful information.
EFT THERAPISTS: WORKING ONLINE WITH COUPLES SPECIAL WEBINAR
In this one hour free webinar, Zoya Simakhodskaya moderated the discussion with Simona Herb, an EFT Trainer from Romania, and Irina Wen, an EFT Supervisor from New York, both of whom have a lot of experience conducting online EFT sessions. Click here to view »