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Session Review of Zoya’s Session



Summary of the session

This is a white, gay cisgender male couple in their late 20s. Partner A grew up with an invalidating and dismissive father and had an emotionally abusive relationship with a controlling man during his formative college years; he longs for closeness but often feels alone with his feelings, feeling misunderstood and fearing that he cannot ask for what he needs. Partner B grew up in an environment where his family swept all feelings and issues under the rug and has not completely accepted his sexuality, a context in which Partner B learned to move away from emotion. The couple has made great progress in therapy, with Partner B’s defenses having come down considerably, but now they face challenges as they navigate their open relationship — the couple has an open relationship in which they can have sex with other people but not pursue emotional attachments. At the time of this session, the couple was in a distressed state as Partner A had started to pull away from Partner B in the face of his overwhelm about letting Partner B down as Partner A attempted to navigate his desire to keep pursuing relations with another man. In this live session Zoya initially explored the negative pattern that comes up around their open relationship.  As it became clear that each of them struggled to respond to their partner’s distress, Zoya worked to deepen the emotions that are blocking their natural loving responsiveness to each other.  For the first time Partner A was able to feel and give words to an overwhelming experience in the session.

Facilitator: Matthew Rofofsky, LCSW-R

Matthew “Matt” Rofofsky is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in NJ, NY, and Florida, with a private practice in Manhattan. He is a Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist and Supervisor Candidate. His practice primarily focuses on couples therapy, but he also works with individuals and groups, particularly within LGBTQ+ communities. With over 25 years of clinical and administrative social work experience in NYC hospitals, outpatient clinics, and non-profits, he recently served for 12 years as Director of Clinical Services at the Hetrick-Martin Institute. Matt has taught clinical practice at Mercy College and served as an academic advisor for the Columbia University School of Social Work. He recently joined the NYCEFT Board of Directors.

Facilitator: Allysen Manz, PhD 

Allysen Manz, PhD. earned her doctoral degree in clinical psychology from Long Island University.  She also completed a postdoctoral fellowship at Long Island Jewish Hospital focused on health psychology, pediatric psychology, family therapy and DBT.  She has been in private practice since 2005 working with individuals, families, and couples.


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July 25 @ 10:00 am 12:00 pm

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